What happens after a break-up?
What kind of relationship will I have with him/her?
Do I love her/him?
Will my heart still long for them after our break-up?
Are we happy together?
How well am I treated?
Why do I want to break up with him/her?
THESE are some good questions to consider when you want to break up with someone.
You and that person you have once loved will PART.
The thing is if you are planning on breaking up with someone you may need to think clearly and carefully of the consequences. Don’t expect the other party to have the ability to be JUST FRIENDS with you. It is simply not possible because no matter what they will still subconsciously pursue a relationship with you.
A decision to break up is definitely NOT easy.
If this has been on your mind for quite a while now…then read on
WHY has it been on your mind? Surely there’s an underlying reason as to why you want to break-up
-Has the SPARK been lost?
-Were you CHEATED on?
-Did you stop LOVING?
-Exhausted from FIGHTING?
-Do you take each other for granted? (TIME and ATTENTION)
-Is is MISCOMMUNICATION?
The most important thing in a relationship is communication. I’d say that if the communication was missing in the love equation you are SCREWED.
-SPARKS are a on and off thing it’s natural to not feel it once in a while but it could probably be because the both of you have taken each other for granted and come to the comfort zone. In this case I think it’s definitely not the best choice to break up. You chose him/her for a reason. So FIX IT!! Don’t break it when it doesn’t work the way you want it to! Talk to them! Do something different and new!! What could you lose? In the end if all doesn’t work then I suppose the break-up is inevitable. But be careful!! You might have lost that spark but has he/her lost it? Is it mutual?
-CHEATING is a no no. Everyone knows that trust is an important thing in a relationship!! If that’s missing, then you have a problem. If your partner can cheat once and be forgiven that easily… WHAT makes you think that they won’t do it again? Love yourself and embrace yourself. You deserve to be treated better. Learn to love yourself. Not saying you shouldn’t give second chances but if you do….TALK. There’s a reason why they cheated…USE THAT information to evaluate WHY you should give them a second chance.
-Stopped loving?!?! ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Well it’s possible but THAT is DEFINITELY NOT the reason to give your boyfriend or girlfriend as to WHY you want to break up!! There is a reason why you dated each other… use that reason and start over again with them and if you still don’t feel it I suggest you DONT explain it with a “I just fell out of love”
-FIGHTING is a frustrating situation to be in in a relationship. It’s no use yelling at each other for the sake of satisfying your own argument. By the end of the day both of you will probably go to sleep unsatisfied and probably not remember what the argument was in a few weeks time. First ask: Would you rather be right? Or would you rather be happy? (Got this off Chris) Also ask: Is this all worth it to risk our relationship? MOST IMPORTANTLY: What can we do to fix it? We are not animals, don’t act on your urges and instincts. Though it may be hard at times, sit back and look at yourself from your partner’s point of view. Lesson that agitated emotion you have. They are your partner, not your enemy. COMMUNICATE is the key here before you make a decision to break up. Would you break up with him or her just because you FEEL that your partner’s friend (of opposite sex) is flirting with you partner? Now now, calm your tits. That is a stupid reason to break up over. Work it out before you want to quit.
-Feeling like both of you are taking each other for GRANTED? Well spend a little more time with the one another. Stop using excuses I don’t have time!! Incorporate even 10 minutes. It makes a difference to everything. It shows you care. Put down that magazine/x-box and send a text to your man/girl. Give THEM some ATTENTION!! Make them feel special. Don’t just treat them like any other friend! That’s for the friend! Give a little UMPH! If not…well well a beak up is inevitable
-MISCOMMUNICATION is the most most most MOST (putting more emphasis because it’s THAT important) CRUCIAL key in a relationship. Without this baby is like starting a car without the car keys. The relationship won’t heat up nor will it start. Miscommunication usually comes in when there’s social networking involved. When you are trying to articulate yourself well and sort things out with one another…PLEASE do so in real life. You need that sincerity and that body language to get through what you intend to say to one another. Miscommunication is a fixable problem with time. It’s you who’s deciding whether that person is worth enough of that time to spend on.
And that’s all for today!!
Hope you guys have a great Weekend!!
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